I feel so depressed having the fact that we're not married & now I'm pregnant then he will be gone for 2 years..
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get married and go with him
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and why did u get preggers?
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You will survive you will be tough for your baby. You will get through it! My babys daddy isnt going to be around at all not because of his job but because he chooses not to be but me and my baby will be fine and so will you! Good luck!
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you will cope ,be strong
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Look in to going with him
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why cant you go with him???
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Make him stay and get another job.
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Is there anyway you could go with him? If I was in your shoes I would be trying to go with.
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Please go and stay with ur parents
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see if u can go with him. u dont need to be depressed or stressed especially now..during the first trimester u have an easier chance of having a miscarriage
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Go with him. Just go. Pack up everything and be with him.
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holy crap...marry him and move with him 2 years is a really long time!! he will miss everything!!
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Oh how stressful! I can't imagine how distraught you must be over this. I suggest you make a journal while he is gone. Take plenty of pictures and videos and ask him to do the same. Although you won't be together in person the distance won't feel quite as far. As for surviving the pregnancy alone it won't be great but you can do it. I did it with my first. It was the happiest yet saddest time in my life. I look back at that time and pat myself on the back for being so strong and independent though. You will do the same someday. Or you could always just go with him... Good Luck. =)
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If you love him, and pregnancy is something you and him wanted, then you should obviously be looking into getting married. What you should want is to do whatever is going to be best for the baby. If you have to raise the baby on your own you will do a great job you just have to stay strong. Or look into going to Taiwan with him. It will be a great experience for the both of you. Dont feel depressed, just look on the happy side, your about to start a family, and be a new mommy! Dont stress it, stress isnt good for the baby
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You will learn to adjust I promise. My son's father died when I was on 2 months pregnant. You will do what you have to do in order to take care of yourself & your child. Don't be afraid to lean on your friends & family that is what they are there for. Why don't yall just get married? Why can't you go with him?
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I understand where you're coming from. I was faced with being a single mom with my second baby and I was so scared and depressed. You have this feeling of anger because of him not being there as well as fear because you don't know how you're going to do it by yourself. Here is something that got me through it. When I had my first baby, my bf was there and it was a hassle. I had to worry about telling him how he could help me with the baby and things that he wasn't doing and we were always arguing. Not getting the sleep I needed or not feeling like he wasn't doing his part was getting unbearable. With the second one, he wasn't around and I got to do it all myself and it was so much more easier. Yeah, the sleep deprivation was crazy and the running around with another child was insane, but at the end of the day, I knew I did it all by myself and I was happy. I was happy knowing that I didn't need to tell anyone to help me and I wasn't arguing with anyone or getting aggrivating at anyone. I had my own schedule and my own routine on how things needed to get done and it worked. If you make sure your baby is happy, then you're happy and that's what it's all about. Yeah, it's nice to have the help, but believe me, knowing that you can do it yourself makes you a stronger person. In a perfect world, we would all be happily married and everything would go smoothly. I'm sorry to say that not everything works out like that, but you can overcome any obstacle. Especially for your child and your family that is soon to come. It will be okay.... Take care.
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my husband was deployed to Iraq for my entire pregnancy and the first 9 months of our sons life. Doing it alone is tough, but not impossible. hopefully youll have regular contact with your bf so you can confide in him and he can be a part of your pregnacy even though hes on the other side of the world. set up a regular time to email or call him about how youre feeling and i always liked to send my hubby the little updates on that month of pregnacy and the babys development. hopefully you have a strong network of friends and family that will step up and let you rely on them. and if not, find other people going through pregnancy with you. its nice talking to people that are experiencing the same things as you are. Good luck!!! hopefully the next two years fly by for you and your bf, and with any luck you can squeeze in a few visits!
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Was this a planned pregnancy, and why is he going to Taiwan for 2 years when he knows he is having a kid? That's a bit irresponsible. Are you suppose to fend for this baby on your own, after you both laid down and did the do? If his going for work, can't he talk to his company about giving him a position at school? Also if it's to better his education I'm sure he could find a great university where you guys stay! Good luck hun. I myself I'm so lonely and depressed, there's barely anyone that's around me during this pregnancy and it sucks. I swear if you're able to see your family go stay with them or closer to them during this time because it will take a load off your shoulders. After my pregnancy and after college I'm moving back to my country..I'm just too depressed without my family.
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I really feel for you. Is he able to talk to his boss and maybe get another colleague to go instead or to shorten the time there? 2 years is very long and you need to keep the bond. Pregnancy can be done alone but you need the support of family and friends. Try to move in with your parents. Don't be alone...You have to be strong for the baby. Sometimes things happen at the worst times, but you look back at them later and see it was for a reason. All the best sweety and keep strong.
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a baby is more important than a job in a random other country. if thers no way you can move there with him then he can say no to the job and stay here and get another job and look after you and his baby which is what he should be doing! and if he says hes going then he obv cares about a stupid job more than you and you deserve mroe than that so then get rid of him n focus on you and the baby - but im sure you can work summin out-either you can go aswell or he can get a job where you are now instead
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go with!
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well why cant you just go with himm? that shouldnt be hard and if you really have to stay in America theres a thing called Skype would probably help you keeping in touch with him http://www.skype.com/welcomeback/ but think about the time differences...and all that you need to get married asap
